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How to Use a Female Condom

Medically reviewed and edited by Tenae Griffin, NP

Did you know that more than 60% of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be prevented by using condoms?

Although male condoms are well-known contraceptives, female condoms can provide equally effective protection during intercourse — especially when used correctly and consistently. 

In this article, we’ll look at the proper way to use a female condom, factors you should consider, and when to see your doctor about your reproductive health. 

What is a Female Condom?

A female condom — also known as an internal condom — is a barrier method that is used during sex to prevent pregnancy and reduce the risk of STIs.

The condom typically looks like a pouch with a flexible ring at each end. One ring is inserted into the vagina to hold the condom in place, while the other one stays outside the vaginal opening. 

Female condoms are usually made of nitrile, polyurethane, or latex and are approved by the FDA for penetrative sex. You can also use these condoms with sex toys.

It’s not recommended to use internal condoms for oral or anal sex, as they may not be an effective barrier method for STIs during these practices.

Similar to male condoms — or external condoms — internal condoms are also intended for single-use.

Although you can leave a female condom on after ejaculation, you should never attempt to wash and reuse it. 

The FDA also recommends removing the condom before standing up to prevent semen from spilling out and coming into contact with the vagina.

Benefits of using a female condom

Using a female condom can be an essential part of looking after your sexual health and overall well-being. Other benefits may include: 

• Experiencing empowerment: It gives women more control over their sexual health, providing an option to protect themselves in situations where a partner might not want to use a male condom.

• Allergy-friendly contraceptive: Most female condoms are made from nitrile, which is a suitable option for those allergic to latex, commonly used in male condoms.

• Enhanced pleasure: The external ring of the female condom may also stimulate the clitoris during intercourse, which enhances pleasure.

• Can be used during menstruation: Female condoms can be used during menstruation, providing continued protection against pregnancy and STIs.

• Comes pre-lubricated: Female condoms are usually pre-lubricated, and you can also use additional water- or oil-based lubricants on them without concerns of degradation. 

Differences between a female and male condom 

Male and female condoms differ in the following ways:

• Coverage: Female condoms cover the internal parts of the vagina and part of the vulva, providing a larger area of protection against skin-to-skin transmitted infections like herpes and HPV. Male condoms typically only provide internal coverage.

• Insertion and placement: Internal condoms are placed inside the vagina and can be inserted up to several hours before intercourse. Male condoms are rolled onto an erect penis immediately before intercourse.

Step-by-Step Guide to Using a Female Condom

Using a female condom is relatively straightforward. Follow these steps to ensure you have inserted it correctly:

1. Unwrap the condom by gently tearing the package at the notch. Avoid using sharp objects or your teeth to open the packaging as this can damage the condom.

2. A female condom has two sides: the closed inner end and the open outer end. Between the two ends is a sleeve that lines the vagina. Use your thumb and index finger to squeeze the ring at the close end before inserting the condom into your vagina. The motion is similar to inserting a tampon or menstrual cup.

3. Push the closed-end ring up the vaginal wall until it sits comfortably near your pubic bone. Ensure that the outer ring stays outside the vagina.

Once the condom has been inserted and secured, you can safely have penetrative sex or male use of a sex toy. 

Tips for First-Time Users

Using a female condom for the first time may feel a bit daunting, but with preparation and practice, you will become confident using this form of protection.

Here are some useful tips for beginners:

• Practice before use: Before you try using a female condom during sex, practice inserting it when you are calm and have a private moment. This will help you become familiar with how to handle and insert the condom correctly without the pressure of sexual activity.

• Find a comfortable position: Just like with tampons, different positions work better for different people when inserting a female condom. Try inserting the condom when in various positions — such as standing with one foot on a chair, lying down, or squatting — to find what works best for you.

• Use enough lubrication: While female condoms come pre-lubricated, adding a bit more can make insertion easier and enhance comfort during use. Use a water- or silicone-based lubricant on the outside of the closed end of the condom to help it slide into place more smoothly.

• Check for comfort: Once inserted, move around a bit to ensure the condom fits comfortably. You shouldn’t feel it much once it's in place. If it feels uncomfortable, it may not be inserted properly. Gently remove it, then try again.

• Be patient: It might take a few tries before you feel at ease using a female condom. Be patient with yourself and remember that it will take some practice. If the condom continues to feel uncomfortable after several attempts, consider consulting a healthcare provider or a sexual health professional for advice.

Factors to Consider When Using a Female Condom

Checking the wrapper for damage

Before using a condom, make sure the packaging hasn’t been damaged. 

Look for any noticeable signs of tearing, punctures, or wear on the wrapper when inspecting it. If you find any signs of damage, discard the condom and use another one.

Any damage found on the outside of the wrapper could have compromised the condom, which can reduce its effectiveness.

It’s also recommended to check the wrapper for an expiration date, as condoms that are too old tend to degrade and are more likely to break. 

Ensuring the condom stays in place during intercourse

Proper insertion is essential for ensuring that the condom remains in place during intercourse. 

Follow the instructions for using a female condom carefully, and check that the inner ring is pushed deep into the vagina. The outer ring should also lay flat against the external genitalia.

During sex, ensure that the penis is inserted into the condom and not in between it and the vaginal walls. This could lead to slippage or displacement.

If the condom slips or shifts significantly, stop any sexual activities to reposition it or replace it with a new one.

In some cases — such as if the condom breaks or slips without you realizing it — it’s essential to contact your doctor for emergency contraception. 

Disposing of the condom correctly

After using the female condom, remove it carefully to avoid spilling any fluids.

To remove it, twist the outer ring to close off the open end. Then gently pull the condom out of the vagina. 

Wrap the used condom in a tissue and dispose of it in a trash can. Female condoms shouldn’t be flushed down the toilet, as they can cause blockages. 

Communicating with your partner 

Open communication with your partner about using a female condom is essential, and discussing it beforehand can help ensure that you both feel comfortable.

Address any concerns and preferences you or your partner might have, and be open to exploring other barrier methods if necessary. 

Should You See a Doctor About Using Female Condoms?

It might not be necessary, but consulting your doctor about using female condoms can be beneficial for many reasons, such as:

• Addressing any personal health conditions, such as vaginal health issues or allergies

• Having access to sexual health screenings to ensure you are free from STIs

• Helping you address specific concerns, such as experiencing discomfort, slippage, or breakage of the female condom

• Being able to ask for advice on how to discuss the use of female condoms with your partner 

Consulting your doctor can help you understand how to properly use female condoms while ensuring safe practices when inserting them and during sex. 

This knowledge will help you protect yourself from any sexual health issues or unwanted pregnancies. 

If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to a regular doctor about using condoms, you can also visit your local sexual health clinic for help.

Where Can You Learn More About Safe Sex and Your Health?

If you’re looking for more information on taking care of your sexual health or want to learn about other ways to have safe sex, LifeMD has got you covered.

We can connect you to a team of medical professionals who can provide support on sexual health and recommend best practices.

Make an appointment with LifeMD today. 

Tenae Griffin, NP

Tenae has worked in healthcare for over 16 years and has been a Family Nurse Practitioner since 2018. Her diverse experience and expertise in various healthcare settings enables her to provide comprehensive care to patients with a wide range of health needs. Tenae values building strong relationships with her patients and is dedicated to providing high-quality, patient-centered care.

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